Why Do I Believe the Lie?
I recently noticed, that when i get a burst of motivation to get in shape, I often find myself buying new workout clothes, or supplements and I convince myself ...this is the key to fitness for me, if I just use this water bottle or have that pair of leggings, i’ll be ready to get in shape. I purchase endless amounts of items and follow all sorts of methods, but I neglect the select requirements that actually encourage my body to get into shape (exercise and nutrition). I started thinking, ...why am I doing this? Why am I stressing other parts of my life (finances, mental health, negative self-talk, relationships) to not meet the goals that i’ve internalized. Why am I avoiding the true and trusted methods to follow my own substitutes that have proven to get me nowhere?
Considering how many times I’ve repeated this pattern, you would think by now I could easily talk myself into the truth. I pondered this further to recognize the rooted lies I believe about myself.
I realized a few things:
I am not confident in my ability to achieve the results I desire
I am ashamed of feeling like I need to change
I am avoiding something that is now holding me back from success
These things are apparent in other aspects of my life as well. I hold myself back when it comes to making friends, stepping out of my comfort zone, even sometimes at work. I cover up this shame by self-treating, whether it’s going on an extravagant trip I probably can’t afford to feel like my life has value, or by isolating myself for a period of time and binge watching shows alone because I feel overwhelmed and want to be distracted from my stressors, or flying under the radar at work so I can avoid challenges that I fear I might fail. This is how I cope, or self-treat.
the truth I believe about myself, is not the truth itself.
The bottom line is, you can’t shortcut success. The goals I aspire to reach, require time and effort. There’s no getting around the nitty gritty work that needs to happen in order to reach a goal. I’ve learned that the truth I believe about myself, is not the truth itself.
It’s important to recognize the lies you are believing in order to fight and defend the truth. For example:
The Lie: I’m not confident in my ability to achieve the results I desire
I have so many resources available to help me measure my goals and take appropriate steps forward
I will not see results or change until I take action and continue to take action
I’m not alone, I have friends, family, and support systems
I can do all things (Philippians 4:13)
The Lie: I’m ashamed of feeling like I need to change
Shame is unwarranted
Change can lead to growth, and can be done in a healthy way
I’m created in His image (Genesis 1:27)
The Lie: I’m avoiding something that is now holding me back from success
I cannot blame others for what they cannot control
I need to make time for myself to determine and process through my stressors
It’s encouraged to ask for help, and I have plenty of resources
I do not have to carry the burden of worry (Isaiah 41:13)
About the Author
Laura Moore wants to live in a world where everyone feels like they have a place and everyone is understood. Her goal for this blog is to share and recap real life topics, and to help provide a place for others to feel know.
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